Physical attraction and sexual intercourse are gifts from God to be received gratefully and enjoyed in His common grace. By His created order and explicit revealed purpose for all cultures at all times, marriage between a man and a woman is the only proper context for sexual relationships. Any failure to meet those standards is sin.
As a result of the fall, the human race is subject to disorder. This is the source of any parenting failures which might harm a child’s normal sexual development and it is equally the source of any congenital variations from God’s ideal which might, in a tiny minority of cases, affect sexual preference. One impact of the fall on the individual is to pervert the sex drive from God’s ideal and to promote rebellion against His standards.
The human body was designed for heterosexual intercourse and procreation. In that sense, homosexual conditioning is a feature of fallen humanity and is neither natural nor inherently innocent. For the individual, however, an awareness of such an ‘orientation’ is not in itself any more culpable than the growing awareness of their heterosexual drive by the majority of people. Both have to be acknowledged, controlled and used only within God’s permitted order. Those aware of this orientation are no more free to indulge it merely for their own pleasure than the heterosexual is free to disregard God’s ideal within marriage. To do so is to make an idol of bodily satisfaction. There is not one example of the Bible approving homosexual acts.
Such Christian convictions should not be parodied as homo-‘phobia’, since those pursing an active homosexual life-style are no more to be feared than fornicators or adulterers. Even if some of them hate all who differ from them, we too are fallen sinners and God’s grace is able to pardon, change and perfect in holiness all who call upon the name of Jesus. The love of Jesus must be open to all, irrespective of background, although churches in our culture have not been good at balancing this open friendship with firm biblical standards.